Forgiveness without the Apology

The first question I'd ask yourself when wanting to have a conversation with someone that hurt you, what exactly you want to get out of the conversation. What is the end game, and if that is an apology where do you go from there. Without the apology you are left with really only one choice, moving forward.

Forgiveness most of the time is for the "receiver" the person who has or feels that there has been wrong-doing to them.

Here are some signs that it is time to forgive in order to move forward for your whole mental wellness:

1. You're dwelling on the event.
2. You have anxiety when thinking about it.
3. There's too much tension when around the person.
4. You resent the individual.
5. You're ready to mend the relationship.
6. You're holding a grudge.
7. The situation is clouding your mind.

Forgiveness does not mean you have to accept their wrongdoing, it is more for you. Forgiveness can feel empowering, and at the end of the day the primary purpose is for yourself. There are many different types of conflict, there is a clear scale.

Here are the Steps to Forgiveness:
1. Acceptance of emotions: Acknowledging emotions you're experiencing.
2. Mindfulness: Acceptances of the present moment.
3. Cognitive Defusion: A process that can shift how you process thoughts and feelings related to your experiences.
4. Self as a context: A concept that you exist outside of your current thoughts, feelings, and experiences.
5. Values: Know who you are, hold those values at a high standard.
6. Commitment to action: Working towards a goal or things that align with your values.

Of course we understand that it is a lot easier said than done, as always we recommend seeking out a therapist to help you process the information.

Please reach out to us if you need support.

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